And depression was what we thought was wrong with my older sister, Annie. She is twenty, I'm eighteen. BrightQuest offers long-term treatment for people struggling with schizoaffective disorders, schizophrenia, and severe bipolar as well as co-occurring substance use disorders and process addictions. Search, watch, and cook every single Tasty recipe and video ever - all in one place! As she grew, the biting subsided, but the outbursts got more ferocious. She is 21. Support Forums > Bipolar Disorder New Topic Reply Previous Thread | Next Thread Inappropriatelylost. "At first, having bipolar wasn't life-threateningly terrible. I once woke up in the middle of the night to write poetry that made me cry. The phrase "force" doesn't sit right. I am ruining my family and I can't stop. 1 posts. I think the best reason that my sister, and our family, benefitted from her residential program was that it didn’t just “fix” her. Making fun of me. Without effective treatment, bipolar disorder can have a devastating effect on the person and their family, relationships and work. The extended family never expect me to join in but I have good separate relationships with all but one brother-in-law. I feel like he is ruining my life, not because he wants to, but just because he's different. My almost 15 yo son is ruining my life and systematically destroying my health. but anyways, i am a senior in high school, and i'm pretty much just giving up. The therapists confirmed what I suspected, which was that the manic periods were not healthy. But then Annie would have these days where she was the opposite: positive, upbeat, energetic, ready to do anything. "I am now mentally ill" — it was a shattering thought. The initial E. Mail, Dr. Dombeck’s response and the follow up E. Mails can all be read at this URL: And then there were the longer spans of depression, which spelled demotivation, lack of confidence, lethargy and poor focus.Amidst all this, my confidence took a huge hit, and I lived with the fear of letting my business clients down. Then, every family’s worst nightmare came true for us: One night while the rest of us were out, Annie took a handful of pills she found in our parents’ bathroom. I began confiding in close friends and colleagues about my condition and thankfully, every single one of them was highly supportive. I was put on heavy medication – a cocktail of mood stabilisers, tranquilisers and anti-psychotics – all of which made life more miserable. Today we're watching a short story animation that actually happened!! Families play an important role in how they are impacted by the condition and in helping a loved one manage it. On February 29, my life fell apart. During the last 6 months of my nearly 4 year time spent at this job, I suffered tremendous pain trying to tackle my bipolar depression. Just how I look. Receiving a bipolar diagnosis is a radioactive bomb in your existence. My spiritual pursuit also made me more philosophical and helped me take ups and downs with some level-headedness. I am very happy with my boyfriend of nearly three years, hers is trying to break up with her because she's unfaithful. The ability for Bipolar Disorder to “hide” right behind my increasing alcohol use over the years prolonged my diagnoses, and this directly impacted the level of devastation the disorder caused in my life. Everything has changed in the past couple of years, ever since I got into an abusive relationship. Within a few weeks I was manic and my GP referred me to mental health. Since that time, many people have responded, complaining that they are going through the same problem. And it’s all thanks to the wonderful residential treatment she got and in which we all participated. How I Publicly Burned Down My Life During My First Manic Episode Last fall, I went through one of the most challenging seasons of my life. I am 23. I spent almost all of my money going on trips, gambling, and spending it on things that I don't need like $900 shoes that I wore all of one time since I bought it. Our three older children are what we in the special-needs community call “neuro-typical.” Jonah, our youngest, has Fragile X Syndrome, a genetic mutation that can lead to a constellation of symptoms, including global developmental delays. I have been married for 12 years, and have had an emotional affair with another woman for the past year. She benefitted from one-on-one behavioral therapies, a nutrition and exercise program, medication and medical care, and support groups with therapy. I feel like my bipolar disorder is ruining my life, my family, and affecting all my relationships. Yes, you can. I can't continue to deal with her erratic behavior. The long-term care provided her—and us—with valuable tools to manage this lifelong condition. when I read your account t I bought I was reading about myself. Joined : Nov 2008. i was pretty sure that something was wrong with me all my life though, because i am always so happy for no reason, and eventually sad for no reason. While my bosses understand that I have some issues they do not know that I’m Bipolar. Fast forward to elementary. Bipolar disorder is a serious mood disorder and mental illness that causes periods of depression and mania. Bipolar partner ruining my quality of life. During this year I also had a melt down and ended up in a psychiatric hospital for three weeks. She took my diary and read it to the whole family at dinner while I was at a sleepover. New Member. The time spent there was horrifying for me because it resembled the typical old “lunatic Asylum” experience. Regular Member. ok, so i'm 17 and i was just recently officially diagnosed as bipolar. I have been married for 12 years, and have had an emotional affair with another woman for the past year. So, I resolved to turn my marriage around as soon as I began to get a grip on my condition. She always makes a giant fight over a laptop and acts stupid or ignores me like a little child but when my parents come in she suddenly become grown up and says she doesn't know how to live with me and that she is very happy that they help her! Community Answer. As with everything, there are ups and downs, good days and bad days. Self care and ideas to help you live a healthier, happier life. More than 2.5 percent of people in the U.S. get diagnosed with bipolar disorder. We found out that Annie had a type of bipolar that caused serious depression episodes as well as these periods of mania that made it seem as if she had rebounded from feeling down. Thanks! At the age of 4, when I was 11, she would arrange her dolls just so, then go nuts if anyone touched them, once even biting me. None of us—my parents, my brother, or I—knew anything about bipolar disorder, only that it had something to do with depression. My sister, Annie, was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a year ago. All my life she has tormented me. I know this might sound like an awful thing to say, but my sister is ruining my family and the situation at home is making me depressed. Today, my plan for a happy marriage is to manage bipolar disorder separately from managing my marriage whenever possible. It was curated by Trijog, a 360-degree mental health wellness organisation. It’s my mother, she has caused me to lose a number of friends, as well as girlfriends. The financial setback further depressed me. I often log in though, comforted to know I'm not crazy or the only one who feels like this. Anonymous #1 #6 Report 10 months ago #6 (Original post by g131999) It's still somehow managing to ruin my life, even when I'm stable. I had become a stranger to my parents and siblings. the best thing that could happen to me in my life right now is if my sister would move away and never come back! This illness is treatable, and with extended therapy, medication, and positive lifestyle changes, it is possible to live a normal, satisfying, and independent life with bipolar disorder. Within a few months after my diagnosis, my illness had its first casualty — I had to wind up my enterprise, which I had built from scratch over fourteen years. And the turnaround did happen, slowly but surely. We can guide you in approaching a loved one who needs treatment. New Member. Annie always seemed happier during those times, but that was just compared to her depression. Being Bipolar Ruined My Life Over And Over, But Sharing My Story Saved Me. Posted 4/21/2013 8:11 AM (GMT -7) A little over a year ago I was diagnosed with bi polar disorder. I became depressed and anxious worrying about Annie and the disintegrating relationships in our family. I almost never had any friends. There I was diagnosed bipolar and quickly prescribed depakote and kolonopin which set my life on a rollercoaster I couldn't hold a job I was having thoughts of suicide I could barely control my anger. And I don't mean a small argument, I mean screaming, eastenders-style arguments. We now know that suicide is a possible complication of bipolar disorder and how close we came to losing Annie. Don’t wait another day to get the help you or a loved one needs. I'm like her obsession! At first, that seemed hopeless, but the education, treatment, and practical strategies provided during her stay helped us all realize that this was just a part of our family’s journey. My mom is ripping away my teen years just like she did my childhood years. she has spent the last 19 years trying to Al plot up my marriage and badmouthing my husband constantly. Posts : 3. I got married within the first year of my diagnosis, thanks to a matrimonial ad in a national daily. Oscillating between mania and depression, Vijay found a way to deal with his problems by writing about his illness. sabrina1234 Thu 16-Jul-20 18:44:19. The entire experience of Annie’s three months in treatment healed all of us. Keep up with the latest daily buzz with the BuzzFeed Daily newsletter! We are here to listen compassionately. I have had just one episode of mania again in these fourteen years since the first blow-up. Not all days end in disaster. I’m having a huge problem with confusion, focus and concentration and it’s making me emotional. I was unreliable. Obsessed with travel? I blabbered nonstop during the journey, and was so exhausted by the time we reached that I fell asleep, slumped on the doctor's desk. My sister was always impulsive, high-strung, wildly emotional. It's not bipolar ruining your life, it's your toxic parents. I've had it with my sister! You need to accept the negative consequences it has created rapidly in order to move on. I take him to doctors and therapists but he won't talk. I am the youngest of 3 children. I was in a toxic relationship where I was gaslighted by my boyfriend: he manipulated me into questioning my own sanity. My dad died when I was 2, my mom became addicted to drugs, she put me through multiple car accidents. Posted 11/29/2008 6:43 PM (GMT -7) Hi, I am new to this site but this seems like the only site which offers any advice on this condition which is helpfull and free. Not only has she healed and learned how to live with bipolar disorder, we have learned how to help her and have developed much stronger, lasting relationships. Now I'm not sure if this is due completely to bipolar but I'd like nothing more then to find out why I'm feeling this way and if I could do something about it. I am pretty sure my sister in law is bipolar. She, also, has got child protection involved - a terrifying experience. Toxic sister is ruining life (11 Posts) Add message | Report. I was told that it was my last day and my severance package was waiting for me once I signed off on the final paperwork. Stealing from me. ive just quit my job as a support worker/carer as it became impossible to cope with the simplest of tasks, 3 months ago i came off my medication and had my implant out as we were planning baby no 3! Even though my psych has said I'm not fit for work. But never days where bipolar is not there with me, sitting on my shoulder haunting me as I play with my children, bath my babies, read my eldest a bedtime story. I have loved him more than any human being possible. It felt like I had disappointed everyone. I currently am taking my medication consistantly; however, I believe that it may be too late. This illness changed our lives, at first for the worse but now for the better. Hi, I have a pretty serious problem. My boyfriend and family feel helpless because there's nothing they … Now im 16. She always made fun of me for everything I ever did. Not Helpful 4 Helpful 28. I am thirteen, I have a younger sister who is eight, and a younger brother who is 6. Maybe "choice" is better. There I was diagnosed bipolar and quickly prescribed depakote and kolonopin which set my life on a rollercoaster I couldn't hold a job I was having thoughts of suicide I could barely control my anger. 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